One day I got really angry. Aricha yelled that he would hit him. She laughed .. ” You can’t hit him. He is a CRPF employee. He is very strong. The reason she says that is because I am thin and short. I felt very sad when she said that about him. She is portraying me as weak, telling me about her past and ex-boyfriend. I’m very, very depressed. Please tell me what to do.
– A brother (Victim details are kept confidential for privacy reasons)
Advice: Based on the situation you are in now .. the bond between the two of you needs to be further strengthened. You need to be able to tell your wife about the pain you are experiencing now. However, it should be expressed with love rather than anger. The way you say it should be the way you receive her. Because you heard her past .. Tell her to understand your pain in the same way. You need to think for yourself what is the right way to express your pain with her. It should strengthen the bond between you.
What you say passionately .. will cause you to feel more vulnerable and hostile. So .. you have to act to instill confidence in her and increase security. Don’t think too much about the fact that she points out weaknesses in you. Don’t dig into her past .. remember it over and over again, point out the mistake at all. Be more loving to let her know your uniqueness. Impressing her .. always talking to her .. try to make the stranger forget.
Experts: Kamna Chibber, Clinical Psychologist, Head – Department of Mental Health, Department of Mental Health and Behavioral Sciences, Fortis Healthcare
(Courtesy of Times of India – Lifestyle ..)